The Professional Cryer

I’m a cry-baby, a boob, a serious cryer. I cry when I’m happy and full of love. I cry when I watch movies, even if I’ve seen them before and know what’s going to happen. I cry when little things have added up over time and it brings a sweet release that only crying can achieve. I cry when I’m sad and I cry when I’m mad. I am a professional cryer.

My hubby made me see my lifetime crying career in a new light.

Several years ago (more than I want to count, actually) I was crying over something or other and was trying to fight the crying. I felt like it was a negative thing about me. It embarrassed me to have zero control over my crying. Amid my frustration and more crying, I told my hubby, “I’m sorry, I’m going to learn how to control this! I will figure this out and I won’t be such a boob”.

What he said not only changed my view about my crying but also changed my view on other aspects of my life.

He said, “Sweetheart, I’ve known you for a long time and this is a part of you that I don’t think is going to change. I think that you are a cryer and that’s ok.”  WHAT???  It’s ok that I cried?

I had always seen my crying as a negative that I needed to fix. The thought had never crossed my mind that it was simply who I was and that it was perfectly fine to embrace that as a part of me and MOVE ON.

Since that time I have never worried about my crying. It has even made me view other people’s crying in a whole new light.  My daughter was having a particularly hard day yesterday and she stopped by my work for a “cry session”. She apologized for half a second and I told her to let it all out. She did. She knew I was a cryer and she knew that I would understand.

Being a cryer and embracing that part of me has made me empathetic to others and has made me see other parts of my life that I viewed as negative as just a part of who I am today. I love that!

There are still things that I want to do, accomplish, and be. But this one moment in my life has changed my view of who I am and has led me to accept things about myself that are just fine, thank you very much. Thank you, sweetheart.

What can you embrace in yourself starting right now as being a part of what makes you uniquely you? Recognize it, own it, embrace you. Change what you want, keep what you want, but embracing you is a beautiful step towards freedom.